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Everyone needs someone to appreciate and find them attractive. Unfortunately, most people never realize the worth of a person in their life until they lose them. There is a sense of confidence when you know that somebody else fancies you.
What do you do when you find yourself on the receiving end and love is not coming your way for various reasons in your relationship? We suggest you follow the following steps to get back his or her attention back to you.
Make your partner want you
It is easy for someone to feel dejected and lonely, but instead of feeling helpless occupy yourself with thoughts of things that catch the attention of your partner. If your partner loves a certain style of dressing and perfume or cologne, try impressing them by wearing them.
There is a saying that familiarity breeds contempt. One of the reasons why people in a relationship may not be paying attention to each other is the fact that they are used to having each other around. Familiarity makes people live their lives on autopilot missing the small opportunities and gesture that would otherwise spice up their partner's lives.
One way to remedy this is to take some time away from each other, each pursuing something they are passionate about for an agreed period. The separation though brief would have a rekindled desire for the other partner and also makes each party appreciate why they are together with their loved ones.
Transform yourself
One other way to catch the eye of your partner is to redefine or transform your image. This may sound complicated, however, it doesn’t need to be. For instance, a change in your hairstyle and the perfume or cologne you wear should get your partner looking at you.
Be positive and energetic as you go about your life. A change of image gives a new breath of self-confidence which has an appeal to your partner.
Reconcile and forgive each other
In any relationship, there are bound to be seasons of fights and conflict but what happens after is what is key. When everyone keeps their stance for a long time, contempt develops and within no time the partners in a relationship find themselves drifting apart which is not what either of the partners desires. Therefore to stop things from degenerating and moving towards this direction. You should be the bigger person. Apologize and deal with the issue objectively and the emotions that could have been pulled in and make sure that you both reconcile. This has an effect of creating an attraction between the partners and a chance to start over with hope and love.
Care and be compassionate to your partner
As you deal with the issues that had caused the conflict or fight, be mindful of your partner's emotions, you may need to reach out and help them out selflessly. Be compassionate to how they are feeling and could be going through. The act of trying to understand where they are and reaching out to them demonstrates how much you care for them. This will most certainly work in your favor. A word of caution though, don’t be overzealous in trying to impress your partner, this could be interpreted as fake and work against and end up pushing them further away as you infringe on their space.
Give your partner the choice to call upon you for assistance before stepping in. This enables you to retain your self – esteem and build up respect in their heart.
Remember the important dates
Men tend to be guilty or at fault when it comes to remembering anniversaries, birthdays, or important milestones that you both share. Being able to keep a tab and remember such dates, shows the value they mean to you and your partner. These simply work magic in the ladies' hearts and the message gets engraved deep within her that you truly value her relationship with you.
People are intelligent and will be sure to read the cues that you leave behind and what your intentions are while to connect with them. You will be pleasantly surprised by how your partner responds to you.
Elicit jealousy sparingly
Ideally, this offers itself as a logical option. Beware of the risks involved since they are high and costly. This may work if the person you are attracting is not your type and that you don’t value the connection. When you are feeling ignored or dejected this could easily transform into an entanglement that you had not planned or given thought to. This is not an option that is recommended however depending on how much value you have both placed in your relationship it may spur a renewed interest in you by your partner.
We all want someone or something of value, and when you start having other people attracted to you and enjoying your time and conversation, your partner is bound to notice and want the same.
Ultimately, your objective is to get your partner to fall in love with you and rekindle the fire that once burned before and could be flickering now due to various reasons or just simply life. It is upon us to make effort to salvage the relationships that matter in our lives.
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